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Author: Candice Hicks

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It is rare for parents to agree on things such as where and with whom their children will move in together. It is up to the courts to decide these cases. The courts can issue a child residence order. This will be to the advantage of a single parent so that their child will live with them. This does not affect the parental responsibility of the other parents.

When a child residence order is formed, the child will have to live with that parent. However, a contact order is normally placed in addition to a child residence order. A contact order determines the time of contact with the other parent. It is possible to have a Shared Residence Order instead, which allows the child to live with both parents by alternating the time spent with each. For example, one week with one parent, the next week with another.

Child residence orders do not only apply to direct parents. Applications may be made by grandparents or other relatives. However, this can only happen after parental responsibility court permission is not granted to grandparents at the birth of the child, whereas the parents of the child if they are married.

In most cases, a child will have a preference as to which parent they will live with. The child’s wishes are taken into consideration when the courts decide who the child will reside with, especially if the child is old enough to understand the situation around them. However, these wishes will not be the deciding factor, as it is up to the court and not the child to have the final say on what is best for the child’s long-term well-being. This makes the whole process very difficult when the child has become estranged from a parent.

What is child alienation?

At the end of a divorce, the divorced couple has hostile feelings towards each other. Guilt for simple things can lead to negativity instead of remembering the good times and the times when the marriage started. These kinds of feelings towards each other will eventually affect the well-being of the children involved if they start to rub off on them.

The vast majority of the time, these kinds of hostile attitudes from one parent can lead to one parent turning their child against the other parent to gain an ally against them, or even the other parent’s family. This is a terrible situation for the estranged parent and the child. The absent parent is estranged and hates the child. The estranged parent will receive negativity and be blamed for the divorce, causing the child to hate them even more. This is known as parental alienation syndrome. It is very difficult to deal with, not to mention very harmful to the child involved. All children deserve two parental figures.

A parent who has a Child Rehabilitation Ordinance is responsible for the day-to-day decisions about the child’s upbringing. According to the current residence regulations, this will happen without any intervention from the other parent. The decisions will be about how the household will function or about the routine of the child’s daily life. If the other parent has parental responsibility, they have a say in the most important decisions in the child’s lifesuch as how they are raised, what school they go to, and what medical care they receive.

If the parents are willing to agree on a residence permit, there should be no residence permit. This is due to the “no warrant” sections in the Children’s Act, which clearly state that no warrant will be issued in respect of a child unless it is essential to improve a child’s well-being in matters such as residence and contact with both parents.

Does your child know the meaning of charity?

All parents have big dreams for their children. But usually, the dreams or aspirations are limited to the professional arena. If you ask a parent what he/she plans for his/her child, the most likely answer would be something to do with studies, sports, or perhaps art. Yes, all parents strive for their children to excel in academics, or in sports, or perhaps make a mark as a well-known singer or artist. And they spend money, time, and effort to ensure that their children receive the best education, facilities, and opportunities to realise those dreams.

However, how many parents have said, “I want my child to be a good person with a strong character, helpful, generous, and loving.”Maybe parents don’t say this because it goes without saying. Of course, all parents want to see in their children a deep sense of integrity, honesty, and character. Is it something that needs special work?

Yes, simply put, it is. All people are born good. It is only the circumstances, such as parents, family environment, social environment, friends, peers, and others, that lead them to develop certain character traits.

In raising children, it is vital that parents instil in children good values, wisdom, and awareness to help them develop strong and compassionate character traits. Honesty, integrity, tolerance, love, compassion, and respect are values that must be instilled from early childhood to enable the child to grow up with these values ingrained in their psyche. If you’re looking for parenting advice on how to develop these values, start with simple actions that kids can easily identify with.

Charity is such an essential value and habit that all parents should instil in their children. Charity, as they say, begins at home. It is extremely important for parents to teach children how to give back to those in need and to society as a whole. What we teach children in the early years will have a strong influence on them in the future. Therefore, teaching children the value of charity should become an everyday part of life.

What exactly is charity?

When raising children, you should be careful not to force your child to do anything. Children have very intelligent minds and readily accept something they are convinced of. Therefore, good advice for parents is to gently explain to your child what the real meaning of charity is, which simply put is “giving for the joy of giving”.

Be a role model.

Set an example for your children. You can donate clothing and household items that you no longer use but are in good condition to charities and the less fortunate. If possible, contribute your services to social welfare work. Your children will follow in your footsteps when they see that you are charitable to others. So practise what you preach.

When your child realises that charity helps to make someone else’s life easier and doesn’t ask for anything in return, he or she will understand the true joy of such a kind act.

Encourage children to provide selfless service.

Encourage your child to participate in social activities, to try to understand another’s needs, and to be one step ahead of others in helping those in need. When children understand the real meaning of charity, it will help them develop feelings of compassion, generosity, and selflessness.

Other ways to be charitable.

Being charitable is more than donating stuff. It also means being kind to a new kid at school, holding the door open for an elderly person, helping your mom clean the table, lending a helping hand at the convenience store, helping your dad clear the snow. Charity also means being gentle and kind to animals. As parents, you must teach your children these little things about being caring and compassionate.

Talk to children about charities.

Talk to your children about charitable people. If your child loves movies, tell him/her how some stars are committed to helping others and doing a lot of charity. You can also tell kids about Bill Gates, Paul Newman, and other humanitarians.

When talking to your child about life wisdom, use illustrated books, news stories, and motivational videos with inspirational messages and beautiful images. Good parenting means values-based parenting, which takes into account your child’s overall personality development and helps him/her grow into a good, genuine, kind, and loving person. When you teach your children these values, you as a parent will also find that you build a strong parent-child relationship.

Charity is doing good, just for God’s sake, and that makes our world a lot kinder. With all these parenting aids mentioned above, you can help your children understand the importance of charity and help them grow up to be caring, compassionate, and wonderful people.